Common Management Errors (105)

Cv) Not setting boundaries
Introduction
Change can have a major impact on people's boundaries as it upset the status quo, ie it is something new and different.

Boundaries are a form of self-care, ie what you find as acceptable words and behaviours on how you expect to be treated so that you feel comfortable.
"...boundaries are a way to take care of ourselves. when you understand how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, you can avoid the feelings of resentment, disappointment, and anger that builds up when limits have been pushed..."
Chantelle Pattemore, 2021

Your values, that are important to you, are the basis for setting your boundaries.
Need to set and communicate boundaries so that you and others know what is, and is not, acceptable; otherwise people will take advantage of you. Don't accept unacceptable behaviour, like rudeness, intolerance, racism, etc.. Need to be careful of other people imposing their needs on you, ie not giving up your life for somebody else.

There are many types of boundaries, ie can range from being rigid and strict to almost non-existent.
"...Rigid boundaries, you might:
    - keep others at a distance
    - seemed detached, even with intimate partners
    - have few close relationships
    - avoid close relationships
If you have more loose or open boundaries, you might:
    - get too involved with others' problems
    - find it difficult to say 'no' to others' requests
    - over share personal information with others
    - seek to please others for fear of rejection..."
Chantelle Pattemore, 2021

Having the appropriate boundaries helps establish what behaviours you find acceptable from other people and other people expect from you.
Boundaries can vary depending on situation, context, culture, etc, eg your boundaries of work might be stricter than those at home; many cultures have behaviours that are unacceptable, like touching someone, especially female, in Thailand; never use the left-hand to to shake hands, or give something, to a Moslem, etc

"...setting boundaries is beneficial for far more than just finding out identity. Having them in place limits your exposure to stress and production of adrenaline and cortisone (stress hormones). Protects your mental (and physical) well-being..."
Sally Baker as quoted by Chantelle Pattemore, 2021

Boundaries provide a sense of autonomy, ie you are in control.
Blurred boundaries can create problems, eg unhealthy lifestyles, lower levels of happiness, high risk of conflict, etc.