(More on Narcissism cont. 1)

Some Signs of Narcissism (12)
NB Focus on covet narcissism

i) they play the victim card (they always have an excuse for everything and it is never their faults; this is a way to gain sympathy and attention while avoiding any responsibility for your actions, ie
"...They're constantly painting a picture where they are the innocent one wronged. So, if you notice someone always seems to be dealt a bad hand in life, or always has a sob story to share, you might be dealing with a covert narcissist......if someone always seems to be in the middle of a drama, the sign you should not ignore..."
Tina Fey, 2023a)

ii) they're passive-aggressive (they continually oscillate between being 'nice' and 'cold'; they expressed their hostility or negativity without being direct, eg sarcastic comments, silent treatment, backhanded compliments, etc; they like playing mind games leaving you confused and off balance.)

iii) they lack empathy (find it hard to understand and shared the feelings of others; it is always about their needs, their feelings, their problems, etc, never about anybody else's)

iv) they are quietly manipulative (they do this subtly and quietly, eg guilt traps, twist conversations, subtly belittle you to control situation, etc;
"...Manipulation tactics used by narcissists can be so subtle that they are often overlooked and misunderstood as genuine concern or harmless jokes..."
Tina Fey, 2023a)

v) they have a superiority complex (sense of superiority; inflated sense of self-importance, ie they feel they are more important, better, smarter, etc than others; can be condescending or arrogant; focus on impressing other people, often through outward displays of wealth, status, intelligence or beauty; believe they are entitled to special treatment, favours, praise, or admiration from others; brag or exaggerate their accomplishments; can have a negative impact on those around, ie
"...erode your self-esteem, make you doubt your worth, and leave you feeling insignificant..."
Tina Fey, 2023a)

vi) they disrespect boundandaries (constantly invade others personal space without permission; extreme focus on themselves and personal gain, ie
"...they may talk about themselves constantly or have a hard time feeling empathy for others..."
Laura Dowart, 2023)

vii) they're never satisfied (have perpetual dissatisfaction, ie they
"...never truly satisfied. It doesn't matter what they have, what they achieve, or who they're with - never enough. They are always chasing the next best thing, the next high, the next source of attention......it to bend over backwards trying to please them, but it will never be enough..."
Tina Fey, 2023a)

viii) they hold grudges (never forget any perceived slights or wrongs; hold grudges (sometimes lifelong), harbour resentment, unlikely to forget or forgive; they hold on
"...to past issues and use them as ammunition in the present..."
Tina Fey, 2023a)

ix) they're emotionally unavailable (on the surface appear caring and attentive but they are show no feelings; avoid emotional intimacy or consistently unavailable to provide emotional support
"...this can lead to challenges with intimacy and relationships because interactions are only superficial in nature. The person may even exploit others to get what they want..."
Laura Dowart, 2023)

x) there are overly defensive (as they don't handle criticism well,
"...even the tiniest hint of critique can send them all into a spiral of defensiveness..."
Tina Fey, 2023a
If you are afraid of hurting somebody feeling and/or how they might react when voicing your concerns, you're dealing with a narcissist)

xi) they make you doubt yourself (use psychological manipulation so that you feel lost and/or unsure of yourself;
"...may undermine, belittle, and gaslight, you until you start questioning your own worth and reality..."
Tina Fey, 2023a

Gas lighting refers to making somebody doubt their reality, eg making hurtful statements like 'I never said that' or 'you're overreacting' when confronted about it.
They make you constantly second-guess yourself, feel unsure about your memories, questioning your worth, etc)

xii) they have a strong need for praise and recognition (despite their external image, they struggle with self-esteem and sense of identity
"...they often rely on others to maintain a positive cells, which leads to an overarching longing for praise and recognition. a may also often feel deeply envious of someone else's positive traits or accomplishments..."
Laura Dowart, 2023)